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Second Dates
by : Britney Holloway
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you’d walk out of every first
date with a clear ‘yes’ or ‘no’ etched
in your mind for a second date with the person in question.
Unfortunately, in reality you often come out confused, not
knowing if the guy/gal is really worthy of a second date.
As a result you often say no in haste and repent not taking
the chance later. |
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At times the opposite happens and you may really regret giving
someone a second chance. We came up with some questions you could
ask yourself clear the confusion and help you make the right decision.
How did you react when you first saw your date?
If the first thought
that crossed your mind was that you have dated better, do not
let that stop you from going on a second
date. Your date may have intellectual qualities or a sense of
humor which may more than make up for the lack of physical attributes.
Do put up points in their favor if you felt that they took time
and made an effort to look good. However, if their grunge look
made you wonder if they even knew they’d come for a date,
don’t think twice before saying no.
How much eye contact did you make?
Eye contact fosters
trust and understanding and hence is a pointer to the quality
of future interaction you may have with someone.
Making a fair amount of eye contact, indicates positive interaction,
and should be taken as green light for a second date. If your
date was looking around quite a bit and you don’t even
remember the color of their eyes, give it up before you regret
wasting more time.
How did the conversation flow?
It will be a rare
first date where you have a lot to say to each other and conversation
flows from start to finish. Even
if conversation was bumpy, at times flowing and at times sprinkled
with awkward pauses, it’s worth a second chance. On the
contrary if you found yourself wondering ‘Did he/she really
say that?’ several times during the date, it may not make
sense to pursue things further.
Did your date mention any past relationships?
If your date mentioned
a previous relationship in passing it’s
nothing to worry about but if they went into longwinded details
about a former bloke/ babe, think twice before going out with
them. They may be rather hung over on the previous relationship
and hence may not be ready to move on.
What did your date want to know about you?
Did they ask you things like what you like to do for fun, what
kind of places you hang out at? If they did they are a potential
hit. On the other hand if they hardly asked anything about you
it may be better to refuse to take things ahead. If they asked
you rather too much about your daily schedule including seemingly
irrelevant details like where you park when you go to work etc.
treat it as a safety red flag and retreat as fast as you can.
How would you sum up what you know about your date?
At the end of the
date do you know rather too much or too little about your date?
If you know what kind of car they drive, what
they enjoy most in life and the movie they enjoyed best you are
on the right track. If you don’t’ know what work
they do and feel that your date was rather cagey with details
about themselves don’t go forward with the next date.
How did you feel at the end?
If you felt a frizzle
of excitement, you should not be reading this article. If you
felt rather happy but not on top of the
world, there exists some potential. If you felt confused and
wondered about their intentions don’t feel any inhibitions
in not going out with them a second time round.
Would you want to be friends?
This is the one question
that you should base your decision on. If you can think of
the person you dated as becoming your
friend you should go ahead, else you should walk away. If you
can’t see them as being your friends, believe me you won’t
reach the lover stage!
Copyright 2005. All rights reserved
Britney Holloway writes for SinglesDating.com -
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