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Interracial
Dating & Relationships
by : Tony Tate
Interracial Dating to say the least can be difficult. Mostly
because of the people who aren't doing it. They feel they should
impose their beliefs, ways of life and, ignorance upon those
who are free enough to date people from other cultures.
I was a black man dating a white girl from Australia. We took
a trip from Virginia to Texas by car. I lost count of the stares
we recieved as we stopped at different rest stops. It was very
uncomfortable. The farther south we traveled the more nervous
I became. Thoughts of the past history of civil rights struggles
and marches, violence and death overran my mind. Fortunately
no one gave us any grief other than the stares.
When I lived in New Orlean I also dated a white girl. In a place
where I thought people might be more open minded it was even
worse. Since my previous girlfriend was from Australia there
was no family interference. This time was a lot different. Her
brother and her father hated me. We caught the usual stares and
a lot more comments under breath.
Interracial dating also seems to be somehow connected to immoral
sexual acts. If you get on the internet and search interracial
dating or similar search phrases many time a list of pornography
sites will come up, featuring sex between black men and white
women. Apparently, as much as interracial dating is appauling
to some, it is erotically stimulating for others. We live in
a pretty strange society.
No one seems to say anything about White guys and Asian women,
or White women and Latin guys. If a White woman dates a black
man though she is some sort of slut. Or, if a white man dates
a black woman he is looked down upon and said to be dating down.
Why the differences? Black men are considered sell outs by black
women if they date white.
People should be able to date whom ever they want. If they are
attracted to one another and love one another, there is no reason
they shouldn't be toghether if they choose. But interracial dating
in this country is still frowned upon. When will people begin
to see just people?
If you are in an interracial relationship don't let people outside
the relationship influence you. Only two people matter, you and
the person you are with. If you can handle the stares, comments,
and jokes etc., fight for your relationship. You shouldn't have
to go through this, but it is a fact of life, one you will have
to deal with for a while.
Love and trust should be the foundation of any relationship.
If anything other than these are the foundation of your relationship
it may not last very long. With the added pressure from outside
the relationship it gets even harder. Interracial dating will
always have its problems so it helps to have love and trust in
place.
Love loves all regardless of skin color or race or religion.
Ignore those who would have you break up and date only people
from your own race. It is really up to you. Not anyone else.
Tony Tate contributes articles to http://www.1-on-line-dating.com a
website focused on relationships and online dating. You may also
find article written by Tony at: http://dating-and-relationships.blogspot.com/
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