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First Date Jitters
by : Ian Parker
Ok guys, does this situation sound familiar?
You waited
for the right opportunity to approach a hot guy you
recently met, and when you asked him if he wanted
to have dinner, he accepted. Now you have a big date
tonight, and you’re a mess. You don’t know
what to wear – nothing looks right.
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Your mouth is completely
dry, your stomach is turning, and you feel absolutely out of
your mind. What if you say something
stupid? Or don’t look good enough? What if he turns you
down for another date?
Relax.
No, I really mean
it. Relax. That’s all you have to do.
Getting yourself worked up, or contemplating the “what
ifs”, is not going to help you out. It’s going to
make you act like someone other than yourself, and cause you
to miss out on the fun you could be having on the date.
Dating is all about
getting to know someone else. If you’re
not acting like your natural self, then you are not going to
portray the “real you” to the person you are trying
to get to know. First impressions mean a great deal in the world
of dating. Don’t make the mistake of being one of the following
personality disasters when you’re on your date.
The Mute You won’t hear a peep from The Mute. Literally.
The Mute tends to be shy and awkward. The prospect of saying
something wrong frightens him – so he says nothing at all.
The Mute means well, and may like you a great deal, but you’d
never know it because he won’t open up. His quietness is
often mistaken for snobbery or aloofness, and you may never get
to know The Mute unless you work hard to bring out his true self.
Unfortunately, most people lose the patience to do so, and therefore
The Mute misses out on some promising possibilities. Don’t
be The Mute. You’ll regret it one day.
The Self-centered
Creep This is the guy who asks you what you want to do on a
date – however, you soon find out that
he has the whole thing planned already. Instead of going to a
nice restaurant like you suggested, The Self-centered Creep is
taking you to some shady bar to sit with his friends. He ignores
you while he chugs down drink after drink. You find yourself
holding him up to walk to the car, and then you have to drive
him home. The only good part of the evening is that you lose
the hunger pains in your stomach after he gets sick in your car.
I don’t think I need to explain why you shouldn’t
be The Self-centered Creep.
The Nervous Wreck
The Nervous Wreck can be spotted a mile away. Yes, he’s the one trying to take a sip of his beer without
causing the glass to shake too much in his trembling hand. He’s
stuttering, avoiding eye contact, and sweating profusely. If
only he realized that dating is supposed to be fun. If you’re
the Nervous Wreck, lighten up! Laugh, smile, and make your date
fun. Otherwise, your date is going to make fun of you.
The Desperate Fool
The Desperate Fool loves your eye color. He loves your clothes,
your smile, your teeth, your nose. He’s
planning a Caribbean get-away with you before the salad is served.
By the time dessert comes around, he’s already moved you
into his apartment. The Desperate Fool is also known as The Pathetic,
Insincere, I’ll-Do-Anything-To-Be-With-Anyone Loser. Have
a little self-respect. Don’t be this guy.
So who should you be on a date? Try a charming, smiling, kind,
relaxed and fun person. Try being: Yourself! Good luck, and happy
dating.
Copyright 2005. All rights reserved
Ian Parker writes for GayDating.com -
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